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Is that fair?

for all the rest - 2024


No one said that life is fair
It often seems the main affair of life
is keeping life's fragile flame burning
Burning with hunger
Burning with anger
Burning with desire
Burning through life faster than a flame up a straw
Some Buhddists say that life is a wheel
That what goes around comes around
Sometimes life comes aground
In a grand crash of life's burning fire
Onto hard rocks of reality
Doused by seas of doubt and despair
Is that fair?
If life's wheel, a really big wheel
A Ferris wheel much more real
Than the one at the fair
Then this ride has been a steal
For me
Not so for others many millions
Burning with hunger
Too hungry for anger
Too angry for desire
What place is made for them
What seat reserved on this great wheel
That they may take a seat and watch the ride
But they instead must hide
Hide in fear and dread
Sometimes wishing the were dead
While I, high on my seat on the wheel
Watch life go by
By sheer luck of birth I get to ride
Free ticket at the fair
To ride the wheel
Is that fair?
Now my ride is almost done
It's been fun but not forever
Must make room for others
Huddled under sodden blankets
Begging just one more meal
Not for one the scraps and crumbs
Out from under blankets come
Old woman limping, baby crying
No too weak to cry no milk no tears
Children's faces lost their fire
Mother's fears so dire
She cannot bear to see
Her child crushed beneath the wheel of life
Yet I have time and breath and breakfast
By lucky seat on the wheel of life
A seat I did not earn
And so I will surrender it
So someone else here at the fair
Without a golden ticket
Without a chocolate bar
Without a bicycle let alone a car
Might find a space
A squeeze excuse me please
Is there room to share that seat
With someone new eager hungry
No not born here no need apply
That's not our affair
Is that fair?


Your comments are welcome

Tin Man writes:

Your poem lingers. It doesn't just ask a question—it demands an answer. It refuses the comfort of easy reflection and instead presents a kind of moral crossroads. Once you've seen the unfairness, what do you do with it?

I keep coming back to the image of the Ferris wheel—some born into seats that rise high above, others left to scramble below, never even given a chance to ride. The luck of birth, the sheer randomness of it all. That's the great discomfort, isn't it? Not that suffering exists, but that so much of it is completely undeserved, and yet entirely predictable.

The mistake some people make when they talk about privilege is thinking it's just about individual luck, as if the problem could be solved by swapping out riders, letting one person off so another can take their place. But that's not the real issue. The issue is the structure itself—the way the world is built to make sure some are always left out. A ride that was never designed to fit everyone. A system that keeps rolling, indifferent to who gets crushed underneath.

And yet, this is the world we inherit. Not of our own making, but ours to live in. And that leaves us with a choice: do we accept it? Do we ride to the top and simply look down? Do we step off at the end and tell ourselves, “Well, that's just the way things are?”

Or do we push back? Not just by feeling bad about it, not by surrendering our seat in some personal gesture of sacrifice, but by asking the harder question: How do we change the way the ride works?

There's something else your poem captures—something harder to talk about. Not just the injustice, but the way we learn to stop seeing it. The way entire groups of people become invisible, their struggles treated as an unfortunate background to the lives of those lucky enough to live without them. The old woman, the baby too weak to cry, the mother staring into the abyss. The world doesn't need to be cruel to them—it only needs to ignore them. That's how unfairness survives: not always through oppression, but through indifference.

You refuse to be indifferent. And that's something. It's not everything, but it's something. The hardest thing, after all, is to keep seeing—to resist the quiet temptation to look away.

There are no easy answers for you. But I know this: Awareness is not the end. It's the beginning. The ones who truly change things are the ones who stay uncomfortable.